Speaking to Children not small Idiots

That may seem like a strange title but for me it isn’t. I guess my rant this week is about children. I am not ranting about how tired I am or how frustrating children can be. ha ha I am ranting about how people treat their children like they are just tiny idiots. No parents. You are just BIG idiots. That is all. We have all been there. You are walking through Walmart and you hear some kid start screaming. Then you wait for what you KNOW is about to happen. Some insane parent starts screaming at their child and telling them how dumb they look. No. YOU look dumb. Seeing a grown freaking adult yell at a small child no bigger than ELMO drives me crazy. What does that teach that child? It teaches your kid to yell. DUH. My favorite line is when parents are screaming, “Why are you overreacting!?”. Crimony. Stop this.

Now what started this rant for me? Something actually quite opposite. I was watching the TLC show 19 Kids and Counting. Don’t know what that show is? Click HERE. I marvel at the matriarch of this family and how she is able to handle her 19 children. She just talks so sweet to each and every one of them. I found myself being much more patient and soft spoken to my child after watching this show. She honestly has the patience of JOB and the love of Jesus Christ in her heart. She looks at each and every one of her children as though they are children of God.

I have always tried to speak to children as if we are on the same level. Talking down to children does nothing but make them feel inferior and less than. That is not a good thing for any child to feel. How are they supposed to have confidence with their peers if they don’t even feel good enough for their own parents/family? I am NOT saying I am the best parent. NOT. AT. ALL. I am just saying that children deserve more.

Why am I so heated about this? I feel so strongly about this subject because I was often talked down to as a child. NOT by my parents. Don’t worry. My parents were great at speaking to me. People in general never gave me enough credit. I felt as though only a few teachers believed in me (Thank you Ms. Waite, now Ameziane, for treating me like a person. Not just a student) I think my bubbly personality and outgoing nature makes people think I am silly. This treatment drove me to getting my Bachelors at Arizona State University. I wanted to prove everyone wrong. Oh. and I did. ha ha I received a Bachelors Degree from ASU in Communication. BOOM. ha ha Just in case you wanted a visual….Here it is. ha ha

So what do I want to make sure came across with this post? 1. Speak to children like they will become amazing.

2. Don’t expect children are dumb

3. High energy does not mean carelessness

4. YOU look dumb if you yell at a kid.

 

THANKS guys!! Hope you liked this week’s rant!

My First Rant

So my first rant probably wont be the most well received or popular thing I ever write about. I feel like I am different then most blogging women. I eat gluten. I don’t do anything “natural”. I believe in medicine and doctors. I don’t make my own laundry soap. I don’t coupon.

With that said. What is my first rant? Well. It all started with pinterest. Now don’t get me wrong. I love Pinterest. I waste a lot of time in the food or humor section. The pin that drove me past to the point of insanity and to the brink of blog creation was about giving birth and telling the hospital what to do. It had a list of all these horrible stories and horrible nurses and what you can tell the hospital not to do. I understand that people have horrible experiences in hospitals. I, however, do not think that this one girl’s problem birth should “inspire” women to change everything that is done for a child.

I believe that modern medicine is a gift and is on this earth for a reason. I have NO inkling to go back to the Civil War era and push my kid out with no drugs. I also want my kid to get the tests done after birth, to get the eye medicine on their eyes to stop infection, and to get the Hep B shot. I understand there is always an exception to the rule. My little sister, for one, cannot get any vaccinations because she is allergic to a chemical found in them. Does that mean ALL children should just avoid it? In my opinion NO. I don’t want this blog to start a vaccination fight though. That is not the intent.

What is my intent? I just want to say that I think our society of Pinterest and what not is putting WAY too much pressure on women. People act as if I am a bad mother because I gave my daughter a scoop of ice cream instead of a kale chip. Women are made to believe that everything has to be perfectly organized, perfectly clean and perfectly healthy at all times. I just want my daughter to be happy. Is that too much to ask? I think not. I think french fries are good for kids. They are super yummy. I think that using Tylenol and antibiotics on an ear infection is just fine. Everyone just needs to take a little chill pill on life. Enjoy it. Don’t compare it to everyone else. Oh you DON’T run a booming business on facebook? TOTALLY fine. Oh you DIDN’T take your kids to the zoo, the science center, the pool all in one Spring Break? FINE. Relaxation and some Disney Jr never hurt a kid.

I guess my overall theme is do what you think is best and not what is in style to do or Pinterest tells you to do. If 20 people tell you to raise your children one way but you feel your child needs another, listen to your gut. You are their mother for a reason. Enjoy it.

I really hope I haven’t offended the blog world out there and I will try to have a lighter post/rant next time. Thanks!

Hello. My name is Bonnie Jean. Welcome to my blog.

OK. I am new to this blog thing and I am NOT the best writer. I decided to start this blog on a complete whim because I needed to vent out a frustration and figured my husband didn’t want to hear a complete ramble. ha ha

I feel like I need to introduce myself a little bit before I start rambling in front of your eyes.

Name: Bonnie Jean

Age: 27

Birth: I was a 2-month early preemie in Atlanta, Georgia.

Marital Status: Married to a pretty hunky cello player. Be jealous.

Children: 1 Little Miss Cynthia & 1 Little Mister on the way.

Hobbies: Brownie eating, singing, photography, watching TV and keeping up with all things Hollywood.

Food: I am pregnant. I like it all. ha ha When I am not pregnant I like Ribs, salad, and cereal.

Family: I have a great family and a great in-law family. I won the family lottery. Again, Be jealous.

Grammer: I am not the best and punctuation and what not. Sorry. I hope I don’t make you cringe.

 

I think that is enough. I will talk more about myself in my posts. If you have any other questions about me ask away. I will answer almost any question.